Pushing the guy seemed the most likely to have a result based on what I know. It is my reading of him based on six months of snooping. I could outline the basis of that thinking, but that is s sidetrack. But I would be interested in knowing why you think it was a bad idea?
The OM is just a prop in YOUR play, he is nothing other than someone who is there and accessible to your wife. So confronting him is really a waste of time and energy and could possibly be fraught with other potential problems.
Originally Posted By: roiste
I am not afraid of confronting my W. And unless I have another convincing reason not to, I'll do so tonight. OK I propose to just state that I have thou about it and do not find it normal or appropriate what happened Saturday. night. Would you advise to go further and speak in general?
Whereas I do not fear bringing up the topic with W, I am unsure if it will help. I suppose short term it will push us a part more, but maybe with time she will respect it.
Any tips/advice about best approach? Anything to avoid?
I hope that you are detached enough that when she denies anything has happened you are not pulled into a fight and you can just walk away from the conversation. Yes this is about winning the war not this battle. I think you seem to know based on what you wrote above.
The point is, if things are going to get worse then it is only a matter of time anyways.
Basically you have a boundary that you will not be in a relationship with her if she is in a relationship with some one else.
