It's not being the best H you can be. It's GAL'ing to be the best MAN you can be that only a fool would leave. That is doing things to change yourself and has nothing to do with detaching. Detaching is to stop pursuing your W like a puppy dog begging for attention. Both can be done at the same time.
You need to GAL to re-attract her but also to build your confidence and move yourself to a better place emotionally.
Detaching is also a tool to re-attract. As strange as it may seem by not pursuing your W creates a void in your direction that she will fill by pursuing you. It may take time but it does happen.
Why is she not letting you see the emails or phone records? That is a big red flag that she IS hiding something to rock her cake-eating world.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
