The end is near

[asitis]

Here's the killer for me, "I want space" but then When space Is given I've lost hope or I don't care.

All I can say is which of those options would you prefer? I think the latter is soooo much better than the former. Just don't confuse this form of pursuit with her not still needing space. She likely does. She also may be worrying you won't be where she left you. Either way, she's having to face the pain of the possible collapse of your M. That's what you were doing and she didn't have to before. Now she does. Nothing but good can come from that.

See what she does (not says - does) now. I expect some mixed messages and perhaps some come here - go away behavior. But ultimately hopefully you will soon see some more consistent pursuit behavior going on.

Hang tight. I see a lot of progress in your sitch.