On silence and patience

[asitis]

Thanks Matt. It took this long just to get to this point. I expect more negative to come when she sees my response from my L to her L. But between now and then build on the small things. But still detach and don't pursue. Tomorrow is another day.

Wow, you get more opportunity to improve your validating skills! And, I'm really only being a little sarcastic. Don't be afraid of her getting angry and venting or spewing at you. The only thing you have to be afraid of in this situation from what you've told us is that you react as the old NDY who lacked the skills and attitude you now have.