The end is near

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Validating doesn't come naturally to many of us, and it is a skill that takes time, practice, and vigilance to develop. Start small, and if you haven't been very validating, she will almost certainly notice the change. You don't have to go from zero to sixty, or even 5 to 40. If you were putzing along at 5 mph & all of a sudden you zip up to 20, your passengers will notice the change.