Matt, I think your prioritization is the right way to do things, absolutely. And I probably do have it backwards, at least sometimes. I know detachment from the outcome is the ideal. But feelings are what they are. I'd like to be the DB hero here, but sometimes, I'm just a mess. Like Fogg in his thread, I'm always looking for some sign of progress, of hope - really hard to see with the OW in the way, and yet, there are glimmers here and there. But yes, if I don't see those signs, I get down.
Thanks for your insights. Definitely things for me to work on.
Not saying I'm actually doing it that way (on a subconscious level). Or that you aren't. Just something Ive observed in your recounts. I think/hope as your life settles down some now, you'll be able to treat your interactions with your W more like a science experiment and take some of the pressure and expectation and hope off.
