Fade, I appreciate the feedback. In the state of KS - it's VERY black and white. There is no fault. Her affair means nothing. I WILL pay support AND maintence. They use a worksheet and it's 100% based off how much more I make than her - in BOTH instances.
That being the case, the only way it's less than the worksheet is if SHE agrees to take less. The only way that happens is to make an effort, be cordial and not have her feel like I'm fighting her on payments.
Realistically, my lawyer told me her amount would prob be something we should just agree to, because if we went to a hearing the judge might agree to higher than that. This way I still got it LESS than what she countered with.
Every state's different and in KS, even though I'm wronged, it doesn't matter.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
