Matt, I think your prioritization is the right way to do things, absolutely. And I probably do have it backwards, at least sometimes. I know detachment from the outcome is the ideal. But feelings are what they are. I'd like to be the DB hero here, but sometimes, I'm just a mess. Like Fogg in his thread, I'm always looking for some sign of progress, of hope - really hard to see with the OW in the way, and yet, there are glimmers here and there. But yes, if I don't see those signs, I get down. frown

Thanks for your insights. Definitely things for me to work on.


Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19