I feel the advise from my DB coach was a bit opposite of what everyone was advising on here, so I often felt conflicted on the best course of action. The advise I was getting from my coach, even with active A, is to start by rebuilding friendship. Because of that, I think one if the hardest parts of DB is for me knowing how to best interact with H, so I have a bit of paralysis by wealth of opinions. With my coach the focus has been on reattracting versus GAL as well. also think living with WAS also offers challenges, especially with detaching.
I also think this is why my H thinks I have been a bit all over the board. I need to stick with one set of advice I guess. It is easy to get off track when you speak to coach once every 1-2 weeks but can get insta advice on here daily. If those don't jive then you lose consistency.
BW
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
