Now, how's your faith in the M? A bit better, right?
It is wonderful that you and W can have those deep and honest conversations. That will aid a long way in cementing your strong bond as a unit. I am so so glad that you guys attended Retrouaville.
Yeah....I'm gonna pull out the "I told you so!" card here.
Bottom line...I think you and W are now officially in piecing, my friend.
Thank you Wonka
Faith in the M .. yeah .. its much better. As I shared with W during ... man .. feels like we 'talked' 48 hours straight so its hard to recall it all and spill it here .. I try to share as much as I can for me to possible look back on .. but more so for others to relate to in case it might help. But yeah ... the fact I can actually share with her how I felt ... the analogy of her casting me out and reeling me in she at first did not understand .. but after realizing during the entire crisis she did that ... lightbulbs seem to be going off faster and brighter.
This I think can be attributed to ...during the crisis they do this n that .. but being in the fog ... its so thick and they just really do not recall unless you remind them, so its a challenge to get them to fully understand how you feel ... and not always reminding them of the past in a "you really hurt me kind of way .. more like .. What happened happened and there has been some damage we need to fix, you can help this process faster by 'Fill in the blank'.
Retrouvaille I think will play a significant part. Honestly if this M ends up being saved, I would say its was my faith being renewed coupled with this forum to help me understand and change in areas different than what my faith was asking me to change (All these changes for the better) Then you throw in Retrouvaille which has changed the way we communicate .. but the timing was perfect .... just as she seemed to be coming out of crisis ... its given us tools and a place she feels safe in sharing with me those internal MLC thoughts and I can just listen and knowing what I have learned here ... help gently guide her without adding any pressure.
"officially in piecing" I am not moving from this area in the forum ... lol .. call me superstitious ... but yeah .. this morning I though .. ok .. THIS will be work but I do feel we are going about it the right way .... no elephants in the room as we are addressing everything.
