Probably blew this one:

6. Do not ask for help from family members or friends. Don't discuss private matters with them that would upset your spouse.

Although any discussion of anything with anyone would upset W. I was not looking for help from anyone, just a short explanation of my life - and I poorly thought that it would stay between us. I guess it just puts a crimp in her idea of hiding forever.

Sorry I said it? not really - sorry it spread? probably. sorry it got back to W? not really at this point.


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015