It's easier to follow if you keep it all in one thread. Hopefully Cadet will come in and clean up!
Anyway, I'm confused as to why you asked to go with her and then immediately followed up with "I'm going out of town anyway".
I'm all for GAL activities. I think they are super important to this process. But they are for you. It doesn't do any good to tell your wife what you're doing - the point is to be mysterious, not to rub her face in it. So why not just say "ok" when she turns down the drive together and then go to Vegas (or wherever)...? It comes across as vengeful back to her since she wouldn't let you go with her. Instead of her being interested in what you're doing, it comes off like you're trying to punish her by doing something "better" than what she's doing.
