Zephyr, thank you for your input. My emotions are far from detached from the whole thing. It's been 3 months and I don't think I'd be human to not experience some of this. I have very good days and weeks, too. Everyone here talks about detach, detach, GAL as though it was a magic pill and yet look at all of the suffering in their personal sitches. It is only the practice of best possible mental attitude. There is no magic bullet to replace the time it takes to authentically get there. I thank you for your support.

I am enjoying a lovely weekend of GAL, ps. Despite grocery store trips, I feel better. 'Levity'

A strange thought today, The memories of him are noticeably fading. How good this will be. But I am also sad that there is so little left and the good ones are fading faster.


Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.