I also find it peculiar that after your W stammers and gets off the phone she is all about letting you know about the girlfriends and girls night out stuff. Most likely falling in line with the MLC pattern that we become the authority figure, and they some hoe need us to know there is "nothing out of the ordinary going on here dad .. I promise."
OK, a couple of things. First, and this is unusual, my d20 told me she has a new bf. I asked where she met him, and she told me one of the large free dating websites. One of the ones W was regularly on.
What makes this unusual was that it was a "trigger" for me. All of the old feelings of anger, despair for my M, sadness, etc. came flooding back when I heard this and hit me unexpectedly. It hit, I thought about it for a few minutes, and let it pass.
Yes, I was good about keeping my mouth closed. I WANTED to tell d20 to look up W's dating profile. To tell her to ask W about which is the best dating website to be on (since she has been on them all.) To stay away from the free dating sites b/c they attract the "lower" element, etc.
But I kept my mouth shut, and just let d20 be excited for her new beau. ------------------
The second item is why I quoted Caliguy above. S13 had his 2nd baseball playoff game earlier today. When the game started I texted W to see if she was going to make it. W texted back telling me she thought the game was 3 hours later (we receive weekly and daily emails from the coach telling us the details of the games - he is great about keeping us informed.) But this is who W is now, she has a difficult time remembering some things on her schedule.
So when W said she was not coming to the game, she called me and did the over-explaining thing to me again. She has 3 graduation parties to go to today (seems a bit late for grad parties, but ok.) Also, s13 would blame her if the team lost, etc. I think you are right Caliguy, W wants me to see that she is not doing "naughty" things b/c somehow she views me as an authority figure in her life. Classic MLC?
S13's team lost badly, and they may have been knocked out of the play-offs. S13 is enjoying spending time with me, and has decided to spend an extra day here (I asked W permission first). It's been a nice weekend.
