Miscarriage Jan 2014, my good friend passes away a month later - start of very hard year in our M BD - Jan, 2015, W moves out that day. Ring off, name change two weeks later W moves an hour away siting space needed before making any final decisions W is not wayward, but was unhappy for a number of reasons: - lack of intimacy - I was not a leader in the family - Addiction issues and all that goes with them - I was reliant upon my W for my own happiness
I was an everyday marijuana user, drinker, workaholic, Mr. Nice Guy, co-dependent and very shut down emotionally. As of today I am 161 days completely sober and have used BD as fuel to completely change my life.
W indicates that D should be considered in the next few months but is in no hurry. MC session scheduled for July, 1st one since week after BD. Currently no real contact with W other than the occasional text.
Some people have asked about my handle:
In college I would wear a t-shirt two days in a row and then turn it inside out and wear it again - money was tight and laundry wasn't my favorite activity. My roommate noticed this and started calling me PigPen.
When I came on this site I figured that was also how I felt, surrounded by a cloud of dirt. DB has been a lifesaver and my goal is to walk away from that cloud and into a life of clarity, faith, and understanding.
Thank you to everyone on this board that has helped me thus far on this extraordinarily painful yet necessary journey.
Last edited by PigPen; 06/28/1504:49 PM.
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17