Mighty, Congratulations to your son on his graduation. I'm sure the ceremony was beautiful and went of w/o a hitch, even if it was pouring cats and dogs.
As for your xh, shame on him! However, Bea is right, he is following the MLC script to a "T". Notice how he was up close and personal w/your son, i.e., trying to talk to him, putting his hand on him? He wanted the attention and when your son didn't give him any, he got frustrated. He saw that his brother was able to talk to your son, give him a card, etc. and trust me, your xh was not a very happy camper. He just had to get that last act of behavior in at the end. PA behavior came out to play just a wee bit. I don't know what he expected when he walked away from his family, not once, but twice. He's going to learn that there consequences for his actions and it's already started.
I think you and your family handled the uncomfortable situation very well and went on to have a very good time w/family.
Again, congratulations to your son. You have so much to be proud of when it comes to your children and how you've handled the situation that has hit your family so very hard.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
