Hi TLEE - pleased to see you posting again. I agree that this may not be the time to make big decisions....but a year to think sounds good. I think you should live where you want to live with no reference to W just now. In terms of your email, am I right in thinking the overall aim is to achieve financial separation? If so, I would remove all of the whys and wherefore's. The simple fact is that if your W does not want to be 'in' a M with you, you want finances to become separate.
If that's the case, I would just stick to what you propose to do with the financials, and don't include anything on the R or why you are doing it.....maybe just something along these lines...
Hi W, I'd like for us to start looking at our finances in order to separate them and each fund what is ours. I want to be fair and reasonable about money, but I'm only willing to fund things that are yours in the short term and we've been S for 10 months now.
Can I suggest that we transfer X, Y and Z into your name and separate our credit cards too within the next three months please? Perhaps you could have a think and confirm a workable timescale for you with this please?
I hope you are well, and please know that I don't wish to be unreasonable, but I feel it's time for us to start focusing on this now. If you want to discuss it further, or suggest anything different, just let me know.
TLEE
As for the ring on, missing the dogs etc. who knows TLEE. It may be that your W feels a little wistful, but I also get a feeling she may be giving the leash a little tug - just making sure you're still attached to the other end. I don't know - but I think the best thing is not to expend too much mental energy on it. Truly, if your W would like to reconcile, she's going to let you know!
Take care, Toots xx
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