Wow that incident with the rabbits, aged 11. I can see how that would leave a legacy of some kind. Interesting those moments from childhood that pop up through this process. I have had many myself recently, I was a small child 5-10 years who spent a lot of time in hospital. A few triggers for me recently.
As for your text exchange with your wife, I can only imagine how it feels for both of you to feel so misunderstood. A million times a day I attempt to get my head around my exs perspective of me, of us and his actions. I am at a loss and coming to the conclusion that it is not my business to understand, but more to just accept for my own sanity. I hope you have more peace for you and your children, in the coming days, weeks months.
Ps ups to you for not losing it with your wife about the money for the lawyer. That would have tipped me completely, that's just taking the proverbial!
Anyway on a more positive note, to hear you taking about your cycling, You have been planting seeds for me about getting back on my road bike. I haven't really ridden in over year. Ex killed the joy for me. I have two road bikes and a mountain bike and have loved cycling in the past. It was a form of therapy in the past, but cycling all got mixed up with ex. Maybe I can find my joy for it again. You have been doing some good miles for starting out, makes me a little envious.