Pink's Journey # 3 - Learning to detach

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Pink

Can we chat about letting go?

Letting to is not letting H drive your emotions, not following H.

Letting go is not indifference it is respect for Pink.

So how do I detach?

This is my method, I see H or listen to him. Then I think myself outside of my body and observe my interaction with WH. I (V) am in the first place, H is in second place and the observation is the fly on the wall (third place). When I am in contact with WH, I move to third position, in other words I watch WH and I interact as if I am the fly on the wall. It removes my reaction.

Pink this takes a little practice, once you do this then you will always be able to be objective (third position) and I believe you would find it useful to do. Start with interactions which don't matter, a shop assistant that is stroppy, a girlfriend talking nonsense etc.

By doing this I remove the emotional content, it neutralises.

I really like your reccent reactions to interaction with WH, I think he is sensing he can't push your buttons any more. You are be moving a woman only a fool would leave.

I agree with Jim, there is a part of WH which still loves Pink. Isn't that inconsistent to say let go?

Absolutely not, Pink by letting go, by letting WH take the consequences of his actions you are encouraging your WH to know that his behaviour has consequences. I remember walking the difficult road with you when you confronted WH at that hotel with TauC. WH has much to do, other than sweet talk and follow you whilst you drive.

So letting go, means H does not have control of Pink, Pink can say to WH 'sweet words mean nothing' pink believes in Actions and only then 50% of them. WH where are the actions which say Pink is beautiful etc.

My IC said to me 'V lies are like rats, for every one you hear there are 50 more".

So it is with WH, sweetest Pink, if you and WH reconcile, WH has much to do.

V