Here's the image that really helped me to understand the dynamics. Pretend you're walking and something grabs onto your leg. You're going to shake your leg to try to get it off, right? What happens if it clings on? You shake your leg HARDER right?
So, the only thing you can do is let go. You can't control her. You can't cling to her. You have no chance of success that way - things will only get worse! So let her go. Let her distance...but stop your pursuit.
In the meantime, focus on you. Reflect. Improve. Use this space and time.
