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Consistent 180's:
working out
always look my best
Saying what I want (asserting myself)
Starting today- more activities outside the house with guy friends.

Work on me:
Reading "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" helping with the fear associated with what she may or may not be doing at any given moment.
Working through the DR activities (up to taking stock, too soon to tell)
Working on NMMNG activities and reclaiming masculinity/personal power- I am one and this is her primary complaint. Wants a man in her life.

I am struggling to understand what is best based on where I am in my stitch. I have a wife that says I love you. She came in my room this morning just to cuddle. She is keeping me at arms length and I don't like it there. However, pushing for more is wrong. I feel like if I refuse her I am pushing her away. So what to do? That is my dilemma....