Day Two

[Lifes Twists]

I had another interesting talk with the ex during the evening of fathers day. I have noticed that she always includes something she has lost because of what has happened. This time she said that she wanted to thank me for all the trips and adventures we had together and as a family. That those created many great memories. She lamented that she probably would not have anymore as she was not one to do them on her own. I said to her that you never know where life is going to take you and that opportunities may come along.

We then talked a bit about her. She said that she has come to realize that she cannot trust her own mind. That with the depression and things like the menopause that what she thought was not always real. We talked about the fact that a lot of times the person dealing with the depression feels they are being judged by others. I told her this is quite common and that most likely they are not being judged by the other person. That in fact the other person may be very concerned for them.

I can see that she is slowly digging her way out of where she has been. I am not sure if the listing of things she has lost (
Identity as a wife, Identity as a mother, Loss of getting out to experience life on trips and adventures) are openings that I should be following up on or should I just sit back?