WW wife has been saying "I love you", offering kisses, and performing small acts of kindness. Talking about future plans (weeks out, not distant future), Initiating sex & cuddling sessions. These are all good signs no?
We have been spending altogether too much time together, How can you detach from someone that you are closer with now than in the 2 years before the Bomb Dropped? It seemed like she wanted these things. Until today!
Somewhat abruptly I just got: "I am feeling stifled, I need alone time." "I feel like my needs have taken a back seat to worrying about the kids and your reaction to [her online EAs]" The result? She wants more alone time, which she has already been doing. She said "And you'll think that whenever I am going in there to be alone that I am doing it to chat with guys. Well I am not! I barely do that anymore. I want to read my book or play a game on my iPad".
I will admit to some hovering. Not purposely...Ok I own my own behavior. It had to be on purpose. I think I have been hanging around out of a desire to prevent online activity through my proximity. Don't get me wrong, this is not constant, but it must stop.
So what is this? Just too much too soon? Her cake eating? An honest reaction to my clingy-ness? It seemed at the time that she was open to the contact, even invited some of it. I am backing off. Seeing if I can draw her toward me.
What else should I do here?
Me: 39 W: 38 T-18yrs M-13yrs 2 Girls: 10 & 3 EA BD 5/24/15 Separate Bedrooms 6/12/15 PA BD 7/3/15 Separate Residence 8/8/15
