Lorelai: My waking life

[Lorelai]

Thanks Pyrite and TO for your responses. Pyrite I will go and se what you wrote on the other thread. To answer your question on where I'm at in the divorce process, H has made it clear he has no interest to work on the marriage and acts like I'm insane if I bring up even the smallest thing that could be a move toward reconciliation. Right now, he doesn't even seem that interested in having a "good divorce" where he sees the kids frequently and we still spend time as a family together (my daughter is constantly asking if we can do that) and he says things like "I don't want to mislead you or the kids." It's just awful. As for me filing, my H moved some money around without my knowledge and told me in an email the next day, saying his direct deposits would now go into a new account he created and that he would transfer money over every week for child support--only in the minimum amount required by our state. He also split our savings in half and "my account" as he calls it has the mortgage coming out of it every month (he made sure to remind me of that in his email. Thanks!) Whenever I try to talk to him about any of this, I get nothing but him spewing anger and rage at me, so basically, we're not really communicating, just saying hello briefly when he comes to watch the kids one or two days a week while I'm at work. This is not someone I can mediate or negotiate with and this certainly is not a person I can hope to reconcile with because he's not willing to do any of the work on himself that would be required for that to happen. So yeah, it's not a revenge thing, just a protection thing--time to lawyer up because I feel like a sitting duck...