Sit and Spin II

[asitis]

My MLC wife had lots of delusions of family continuing after a D. You know, the we can still do things like Christmas together, we'll still be family, blah blah blah. I think it is part of the not wanting to face up to ones responsibilities and the consequences of ones actions that seems to run so deep in MLCs. Now, there is nothing about being a family. None of those family days she talked about as an important part of the S. No talk of what the impact or life will be like for the kids or us from having a life of shlepping them back and forth between us and having to negotiate things with someone with whom we have no loving relationship to bolster the work. Just I want to run, without a clue that she can only run by abandoning the kids and moving out of the area. It will be hard work either way, although the hard work of rebuilding leads to something positive for everyone (hopefully).

Keep doing what you are doing: listen, validate. She needs to face the costs of her choices, not you. She will likely rant and rave and blame you for that pain (seems to be in the MLC rule book). Hopefully, some day before too much damage has been done, she'll face up and grow back up. Tough waiting though.

Hang in there Heavy!