Glad you are reading DR & have Jody coaching you. As Matt told you, don't beat yourself up for things you did 3 months ago and talk like you ruined chances then or now. This isn't baseball, where you get 3 strikes and your out. Almost all of us started off doing the wrong things.
On the ring, don't rush the decision, as you will likely go back and forth for a while as you wrestle with it. You can read my thinking in recent posts on my thread about it if that helps, but remember I went back and forth for weeks, and that was a month after BD. Nothing needs to be decided quickly. Nothing. Next coaching session, run your thinking by Jody on the ring decision. She helped me with that.
As she probably pointed out, you are in the dust settling phase, where you can only focus on your actions and words. Almost everything you do will be unilateral at this point, and you will see little to no reciprocation. Don't expect it. Just focus on reading, identifying your goals and baby steps and plan, esp. the GAL plans and goals.
Good luck & keep up the good work.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
