I don't know - maybe there are families who are divorced but still act like families. Maybe that's how it's done now but I am no on board with it.
The reality is that I am alone with two kids who I will co parent with. I haven't said that anymore - I don't need to justify anything anymore.
She still doesn't "get" what she has done and most likely never will. No remorse no empathy and she is angry that I am upset. She said I wear my anger like I own it and want to be a martyr. "Poor j - she was dumped, her wife had an affair, she was cheated - poor me"
Wow - I don't want to be a martyr or victim. That part has passed - now I just want to be me and not be defined by the random cruelty of the universe. W said last week some friends told her she made cruel and harsh comments and she reflected a bit and said yes, I guess I do. She can accept that from other people but not from me. She also said that she is mean to me.i asked why she was so mean and she said so she would be heard.
