Hey py. I know it's space that curves and light follows a straight path but I'm on an iPhone and didn't want to get into the details of space time. Typing is difficult enough with just your thumbs. But my point still stands. She may well know the light is there even if she's pointing in the wrong direction.
Physics, now that's a subject I can get my teeth into.
ahhhhh i see where you're going now. Maybe my light can do a lap of a closed Universe. Or maybe I can just eat enough to have such an enormous gravitational effect on space-time curvature that it pulls the light back into her eyes. Although I would need to eat as much as a few black holes
WRT my W. I am (today at least) quietly confident that she will see the "light". The question then is how long will that be, and will I still be here in 2 years, 5?
take care - Py
Don't know dude but if I had a pocket full of Hicks Bosons I'd lend them to you.
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Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
maybe, 3, 4...10 years down the road some especially divorced betrayed spouses may say "wow, my ex spouse gave me the greatest "gift" of all time by cheating, leaving and divorcing me" however, that's not the way it sounds to a large majority of betrayed spouses in the thick of the most painful thing many will ever experience in their lives. It's NOT a "gift'.
I know you don't like the word, you have made that abundantly clear. And my sich is a little different but ultimately the same.
And oh by the way my relatives were obliterated in the holocaust, I have spent time in a POW mock camp and had commanders that were POW's with John McCain. I so agree that in the thick of this that I thought that my life couldn't get too much worse. Never could even under stand how I could say that it was a gift. There is a saying no PAIN no GAIN. People don't change until the Pain of changing is less than the Pain of staying the same. That is why a wayward person opts for the path of least resistance. It took me a long time to understand that although I had no adultery in my sich that their was still infidelity. And infidelity may mean that no other person was involved.
I unlike you was not able to DO anything other than DETACH and let go, no other person meant NO EXPOSURE or any other tricks.
That all being said I still believe that my ex has given me a gift. I have recovered, thrived and blossomed after the pain subsided. I love and am loved, I am happy and living a full life. My adult children are glad to see me in this recovered state.
PY, it is good to hear you are finding some peace in your situation,
Until LBS detach and let go this is hard to find. I am going to a retreat today on spiritual self reflection and meditation. Your words have given me comfort. Thank you, so much.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
WRT my W. I am (today at least) quietly confident that she will see the "light". The question then is how long will that be, and will I still be here in 2 years, 5?
Py,
I feel the exact same way, but that question of how long it will take and where ill be make it almost irrelevant. Even if they do see the light it doesn't mean they will do the work necessary to rebuild the M. Path continues to be the same and not much changes at all.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Yeah I can't imagine she will do this 270. A 180 for her would be just admitting that she might have behaved badly these past few months. Actually adressing issues within the M would be at least another right turn.
-Py
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Wow, you were up late a few nights ago! I'm happy to hear you enjoyed the stories. You're quite welcome.
I simply wanted to stop by and see how my friend is. I know things are very tough for you now. I know it's hard, but try to focus on yourself more and think less about your Ws actions, thoughts, etc.
I am rooting for you. You CAN do this.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
