The Bird, the Cage, and the open door.

[Sotto]

Hi Cali

I think on the one hand you are acknowledging your W's efforts and appreciating she has work to do. But OTOH, you are already speculating that she may not be able to offer what you want.

I completely agree with you about not living in a sexless M. But I don't think you know yet what things would look like with your W going forwards. She hasn't become W mark 2 yet. She's W 1.25 but moving forward.

You've said that you'll use retrouvaille to learn more about yourself and hopefully this will benefit future R's. I thought that was a good perspective to have. However, you're also expressing some frustration about W not fully engaging in the POST stuff. There was always a risk that she may not be ready for the rigour of that. But I think she is trying.

l actually think she is doing pretty well, and I am rooting for her. To me, it would be a shame to have come this far and turn away from the M. I think you may need to look at your own 'stinkin thinkin' and patience here perhaps..

Also, why is there any need to think about this future decision that needs to be made. There's no need to rush that - particularly when your W is a 1.25 just now. Maybe just loose the ties a little and move forward as you have already been doing.

I think you are doing so well, and I learn a lot from your posts. Take Care xx