So, ya - I'm F'd. Came to the hotel early to surprise her. OM was there. Had a calm conversation with him without her saying I know he doesn't want his family to find out and I hope it doesn't have to come to that. He knows how messed up this all is. She's told me the marriage is over. She hasn't wanted it for a long time. Gave me her rings and left for lunch with. A friend. She's pissed that she feels like I threatened him. She's angry and she gets so reactionary. I don't know what to do. Last resort?

What about our daughters and family. I'm lost.

Me: early 30s Her: same
M: 5+yrs T:10+yrs
D (2): under 10s
OM PA - Began Apr/15
A Discovered/ILYBINILWY: Start of May
Removed ring: End of June