Sorry you are in one of the down swings at the moment. It probably doesn't help much to remind you that these are swings, and they are normal and often not really tied to S's behavior but our own turbulent emotional life right now.
Georgia's post reminded me of one of Sandi2's on WW, asking LBHs why they were so afraid of pissing off their WW. As many have posted in a number of threads, the normal rules of interaction don't apply when their is an A, and signs of progress often are not the same as the ones you see DBing a M where there isn't an OM/OW. You might want to go back and read the thread on Sandi's advice the LBHs w/ WW to see if you are looking for the right signs and keeping her advice in mind as you navigate the crazy world of interacting w/ a WW.
Good luck & hang strong. You've shown the fortitude for this. Remember that and draw on it for extra strength right now.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15