My wife's affair was not a "gift" I am grateful for. It's wayward logic to say "I celebrate sin because it made me who I am today". Instead, my wife and I both wish we could have learned this stuff without either of us experiencing and enduring adultery and the unavoidable and sometimes continuing consequences of adultery; however, we are better persons for having overcome it thus far. It's through God's love and grace that we've been able to use our story and lives to help other couples cope and overcome the same.
Maybe its wayward but it sounds like it is a gift according to what you just wrote.
My .02
According to that logic, was then the Jewish Holocaust a gift?
Maybe we should ask John McCain if his time in the Vietnamese prison systems was a gift?
Or a rape victim who overcomes her emotional and physical scars to stand up in front of women speaking out as the face of a survivor of rape, maybe we should ask her if being raped was a gift.
Or the families of the victims at Mother Emmanuel AME Church in Charleston, South Carolina, perhaps, they should be reminded of the gifts their love one gave their life for as they commence on their burden of overcoming the atrocities of hatred their loved one endured.
I KNOW it's wordplay and it's co-opting a word and trying to look on the bright side of things and maybe, 3, 4...10 years down the road some especially divorced betrayed spouses may say "wow, my ex spouse gave me the greatest "gift" of all time by cheating, leaving and divorcing me" however, that's not the way it sounds to a large majority of betrayed spouses in the thick of the most painful thing many will ever experience in their lives. It's NOT a "gift'. Adultery is sin. It's black. It's evil. Defeat it. Overcome it. Don't ever celebrate it. IT (adultery) is not what made me the man and husband nor my wife the persons we are today. God did and God did NOT "gift" me adultery to teach me a lesson.
Rant....Sorry...still love ya Cadet. Hate the choice of words, not the moderator. lol.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
