My wife and I are over a decade recovered and we have a stack of friends in real life, both single divorced betrayed spouses and recovered marriages, that can attest to the fact that this experience, though brutal and gruesome, isn't insurmountable. Sadly, the only ones it doesn't seem to ever work out for are the unrepentant way wards. Ultimately, it's their future happiness, contentment and eternal soul that's the only thing truly at stake here.
I know sometimes it feels like you've been beat up, stabbed and thrown off the largest cliff in the world. The pain is often described as more hurtful than the loss of a child because someone you loved and vowed to love you back CHOOSE to do this to you; however, as you fall from that cliff you can close your eyes, focus solely on your internal pain and anguish OR open your eyes and take in God's beautiful world around you.
My wife's affair was not a "gift" I am grateful for. It's wayward logic to say "I celebrate sin because it made me who I am today". Instead, my wife and I both wish we could have learned this stuff without either of us experiencing and enduring adultery and the unavoidable and sometimes continuing consequences of adultery; however, we are better persons for having overcome it thus far. It's through God's love and grace that we've been able to use our story and lives to help other couples cope and overcome the same.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
