On silence and patience

[Georgia Bulldogs]

I think way too much time and emphasis is being put on way too many words.

Imagine your wife is a crack addict (instead of just addicted to OM). Do you think your crack addict wife would care if you said "come on in and say 'hi' if you get the chance". You are communicating with a brick wall whom is singularly focused on her addiction (OM). Even you son is a pawn in this game as it would likely appear bad to OM if she simply abandoned him with you (a good example of this is her dropping him off with you while it was raining because she couldn't simply shove him outside to play and away from her while she texts furiously with her "a$$oulmate".

So, individual words and phrases don't matter much and I'm of the opinion that ticking them off with the truth from time to time is more beneficial than trying to appease them. Sure they get angry but then they run to their OM and spout off for hours about how terrible you are. OM's don't like angry complicated affair partners. They much prefer the dirty secretive taboo affair sex they had before where they just stroked each other's insecure egos and mistakenly confused taboo adulterous sex with real love. An angry affair partner focused on her husband isn't quite the same thing they signed up for.

You want to behave in an "attractive manner" which is being yourself. Being authentic. Speaking the truth. Not being afraid of her. Such that if and when she does stick their head out of the fog (and they very often do) she will remember and/or see a strong confident man beckoning them out of the fog.

Essentially, nothing you say or do is really going to be that "attractive" to her TODAY and the things/behaviors that ARE attractive are the ones that tick her off the most. So trying so hard NOT to upset her is counterproductive in a sense and in a sense, it doesn't matter right now.