On silence and patience

[PigPen]

It's crazy. Absolutely crazy. But it's the DB process NDY.

The light and funny stuff was our old patterns and somehow they got us to where they are now. I see it too.

I also see that now the game has changed and the stakes are significantly higher. Now when communications are so few and far between they have to be well thought out.

My W has reduced her emails to me down to four word replies, she stopped addressing them to me personally months ago and now just heads them with "hey". It's as if using my name would be too painful for her (mind reading I know)

I look at her replies as going through her own mental/emotional version of Wonka. She has an outcome that she wants and an emotional protection system in place - that is trying to protect that outcome. All of her replies get filtered through that system - using my name may give me hope, or may be too painful for her, or some other reason that I can't even think of. But it has a reason.

We have to view our system as having its own agenda too so without Wonka, we just write what we "think or feel" not realizing that our system has probably tainted it with it's own flavor of need.