So my next burning question is ...... should I send w a post card from vacation? I am planning on taking two weeks with the kids to the islands. Do I mail a spouse who is divorcing me a post card?
Gad. I have no idea about divorce etiquette. I have said all along I don't want to be friends. I think realistically I will regret that - but it is what it is.
I always feel that if I don't do everything "right" or "correct" in her book I will get punished for it. For example, if I don't send a post card, she will be even more hateful during the divorce proceedings. See what I mean?
So she sends me postcards, directions to camp, nice gestures but is having an affair and is DIVORCING me. She is hung up on social etiquette but not at all about other behaviors (cheating, lying, etc...)
A part of me things, if I do nice things/gestures back, then she will stop the affair, come back to marriage and family and all will be rosy. That is crazy thinking I know but it swirls round in my noggin.
I know the board will say - Go ahead - take the high road, what does it hurt. But I want to FORGET ABOUT HER and all of this misery. If I am sending her post cards and thinking about how this will affect her or not is NOT DETACHED. Right? I so want to be detached.
So I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. *&^^*&%
I need to start believing in myself more - I can do this...
