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Honestly? I got a life. Of my own. I went out to meet new people, I hang out with friends, I spend better time with my kids, and so on.

I proved to myself that I can still be successful and happy without my wife in my life. Now I know I don't NEED her anymore. Sure, I want her to come back. But I don't need it anymore like I thought I would.

Once you achieve that, what's left to be afraid of? The worst has already happened.

That's so true. The worst is past. It only gets better from here. Thanks Matt!

To clarify, your relationship with your wife will still probably get worse. But as everything else improves and you detach and GAL, it starts to affect you less.

So the online affair(s) continue unabated. Tonight my wife and I watched a TV show together. About 10:30 she was abruptly exhausted. Needed to go to bed. We are in separate bedrooms. She came out of the bedroom to show me how good she looked in some new sleepwear (we discussed it, I am not guessing why she came out). Then she went to bed. An hour later she was still up and on her phone. I don't know why, but given what's been going on I would guess she is chatting with her online pals.

This greatly hurt my feelings and is illustrative of how online affairs damage relationships. She told me a story to get in the bedroom alone and then stayed up chatting.

So. What is the DB answer here?

1. Do I say plainly "When you told me you were exhausted and then stayed up on your phone for another hour or more it hurt my feelings." I will probably get a lie back won't I? "I couldn't sleep, I was texting a friend, I was looking at...."

2. Do I just say nothing and take the punch? She knows I noticed. She will be expecting me to comment. Am I not worthy of respect if I ignore it?

Option 3? Not sure what that is. But if you want to suggest another alternative I am all ears.