In which I'm feeling lost, but will perservere

[Elly4]

Hi Asitis! You've asked some good questions which I love as it makes me think more. I'll try to answer them for you.

1."do you and your H have any agreement or understanding regarding other people at this point?"
We have talked about this and agreed that neither one of us would want a significant other in our child's life at this point. I actually brought it up again last night to see if we were both on the same page still. He stated that no she was a platonic friend and we had agreed on not exposing our son to dating lives.

2. Lack of people IRL. Unfortunately, that's true. I live in a very rural area, so don't see many new people. I talk to some friends at some times, but they are not always available to chat when I'm in crisis, like my H has always been. We are both introverts so we have been very much each other's emotional stability. I agree that is part of my H's problem. Of course, I have tried to fix that on my part, but my H did not until BD. I think I stated recently on here and it is certainly something I think about daily lately, but it's really hard to find a new best friend.

Thank you for the support, and I totally agree that some of what's going on for me is what is triggering my H's issues. My IC also believes because my H's dad left when he was 5, that our son's age is also contributing to the problem as my H probably has this subthinking going on about dads leaving around this age.