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Wonka,

thanks if you get here. Or anyone ho wishes to comment really.

I am still "dedicated" to saving my M, but following all the discussions I have had with Cadet, Zeus, et al I am resolved to just "waiting" for W's A to run its course. WRT to that, she is in love with OM, she has introduced him to her family and is likely to move in with him in the next few months.

OM is 24, single, here on a temporary work visa from Ukraine. There is no doubt in my mind that he is more than happy to have a R with a citizen in his pocket when applying for permanent residency. In short he is unlikely to upset the boat, or reject slowing the R down by not living together etc.

Usual story, W says that future with me will NEVER happen, irrespective of future with OM. Your last post on Smothy's thread made me realise that I have mentioned OM in nearly every conversation I have had with her and I should stop this.

Particularly what I want your opinion on is this:

I have recently engaged L to notify W of my intent to NOT relocate our family just for her convenience. It is NOT in best interests of kids (currently 50/50) and certainly not mine (although this is not raised). This is turning adversarial. I have "lovingly" reassured her that I forgive her and let her go to do as she pleases, BUT when it comes to the kids welfare I WILL NOT lay down.

I don't want this to be adversarial, I don't want to have and/or show no self-respect, but I don't want to make things worse between us. How can I proceed? It is getting to the point of putting my foot down and going to court. It is likely this will end up in my favour, but WRT to W's image of me? How "nice" should I be?