Ok, for the audience. And yes. I appreciate the input but before I need to start a new thread I think this is worth a mention.

Statement A) it's ok to come in and say hi you know

Where I live this is a strong confident statement.

Statement B) if you want to come say hi that's ok.

Weak. Just weak.

If you guys have a better suggestion I'm up for that. This is a learning curve after all.

Me:43 Her:42
M:14
S:9
EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts)
PA started 2014/05/30
BD:2014/11/05
I left 2015/10/01
I returned 2015/05/02
She left 2015/06/10
OM still on the go.