Need to stop pushing

[NDY]

My north Georgia mountain kin would say.... "you can wish in one hand, poop in the other....see which one fills up first"

I shouldn't laugh but I did.

[Painter]

Thanks bob

Thing is. Nothing has changed since April. The stuff in her L letter is almost identical to the stuff we talked about in the mediation session. I dare say her L is happy to say whatever my WW wants to say, but isn't giving her very good advice. My L, will pretty much do the same but he's impressed not just about my knowledge of the law here but also how I've interpreted it. WW isn't there, that's for sure.

But, the Calander. Yea. I'll set up a google calander and invite her to agree. Not tomorrow for obvious reasons.

One thing I'd like to point out to the group, and this is not mind reading. She think the house is HER house. By that I mean she no longer believes I have much in the way of a stake in it. That's going to sting. I dare say her L has advised her that I don't need to leave nor agree to her terms but she is entitled to ask (again) at a pricey sum.

To me that's just silly.

Couple of comments (cat bit my finger so I'm to the point today):

- April is only 2 months ago. Probably feels like an eternity, but compared to 14 years of M, not so long.

- Possession is nine tenths of the law. Goes for house and S9. Courts don't like to change things.

Why does she think it's her house? H thought the same, but he bought it before we got M, so I can understand why.

[NDY]

Thanks bob

Thing is. Nothing has changed since April. The stuff in her L letter is almost identical to the stuff we talked about in the mediation session. I dare say her L is happy to say whatever my WW wants to say, but isn't giving her very good advice. My L, will pretty much do the same but he's impressed not just about my knowledge of the law here but also how I've interpreted it. WW isn't there, that's for sure.

But, the Calander. Yea. I'll set up a google calander and invite her to agree. Not tomorrow for obvious reasons.

One thing I'd like to point out to the group, and this is not mind reading. She think the house is HER house. By that I mean she no longer believes I have much in the way of a stake in it. That's going to sting. I dare say her L has advised her that I don't need to leave nor agree to her terms but she is entitled to ask (again) at a pricey sum.

To me that's just silly.

Couple of comments (cat bit my finger so I'm to the point today):

- April is only 2 months ago. Probably feels like an eternity, but compared to 14 years of M, not so long.

- Possession is nine tenths of the law. Goes for house and S9. Courts don't like to change things.

Why does she think it's her house? H thought the same, but he bought it before we got M, so I can understand why.

Hey painter. Thanks for sticking by me. It's just her mind set. From everything she has said for quite some time. It's an attitude rather than being grounded in reality. It's both our house. We bought it off plan, both pay the mortgage and put the equitity into it from the sale of our flat that we bought together. Equal share. No more, no less.

[Huddy]

Equal share because the law says so. It's not 1950 where the 'man' had to provide for the spouse forever more.

[NDY]

Hey gang. So short email exchange.

S9 turns up. It's a crappy rainy night here (well it's Scotland and summer so what do you expect?). WW dropped him off. So I txt her


Me: wow, so thanks. Unexpected. Really appreciate it. It's nice to see him.
WW: he wanted to see you and it's raining
Me: that's great, so what time should I drop him off? You can come in and say hi you know.

Did I do wrong?

I hate that I have to over analyse this stuff.

[MrBond]

Did I do wrong?"

You were fine until ... ""You can come in and say hi you know."

Sounds like you were trying to be a wiseass.

"I hate that I have to over analyse this stuff."

Then don't. But you have to think before you say something you're going to regret.

[NDY]

Hi Mr Bond. In what way was I trying to be a wise you know what? With all due respect there appears to be a language barrier here. Where I come from that's not being a wise you know what. That's just normal. My mother says that to me, so do my brothers, friends etc. perhaps that's a North American thing, IDK but that's it a wise you know what statement where I come from. It's more of an invite. Perhaps we need to expand the cultural differences here. But thanks for chipping in. You know what they say, we are divided by a common language:-)

[Bob723]

Did I do wrong?"

You were fine until ... ""You can come in and say hi you know."

Hi NDY,

Happy to stop by earlier, you're quite welcome. I wanted to see if you replied and noticed the posts since.

If you did say these exact words, "You can come in and say hi you know" I totally agree with MrBond. It stinks having to watch every single word you speak or write to her, I'm in the same sitch, as you know. Had you made that comment without the "you know" at the end, you probably would've been fine.

MrBond, others, would you agree?

Hang in there Mate.

Bob

[asitis]

Hey gang. So short email exchange.

S9 turns up. It's a crappy rainy night here (well it's Scotland and summer so what do you expect?). WW dropped him off. So I txt her


Me: wow, so thanks. Unexpected. Really appreciate it. It's nice to see him.
WW: he wanted to see you and it's raining
Me: that's great, so what time should I drop him off? You can come in and say hi you know.

Did I do wrong?

I hate that I have to over analyse this stuff.

You did fine. Don't take it personally if she rebuffs the invite. Do you have any face-to-face opportunities? If so, just leave it to those and don't invite. If not, that might be worth thinking about as a baby step goal you strategize how to reach.

Just enjoy the surprise opportunity with your S!

[NDY]

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Hey gang. So short email exchange.

S9 turns up. It's a crappy rainy night here (well it's Scotland and summer so what do you expect?). WW dropped him off. So I txt her


Me: wow, so thanks. Unexpected. Really appreciate it. It's nice to see him.
WW: he wanted to see you and it's raining
Me: that's great, so what time should I drop him off? You can come in and say hi you know.

Did I do wrong?

I hate that I have to over analyse this stuff.

You did fine. Don't take it personally if she rebuffs the invite. Do you have any face-to-face opportunities? If so, just leave it to those and don't invite. If not, that might be worth thinking about as a baby step goal you strategize how to reach.

Just enjoy the surprise opportunity with your S!

I did mate. And thanks for the input again.

I believe there is a real cultural difference going on here. What I said wasn't abnormal in anyway. It may look odd to you guys but if I said "away an bile yer heed"'you would not have a clue what that meant. Equally, "Iree man" jamacia. I'm not from there but it has a meaning to them. Get my drift?