As much as she says she wants to "live alone" in her sketchy apartment, I would love to have enough normal moments like those the next month and a half so that when they are gone, she wakes up and misses them with the kind of ache in her gut that I feel every day in mine.
Exactly. This is what the LBS needs to do...planting seeds of positive memories and interactions in the WAS' mind. They are what usually draws them back home because they reflect back on the positive memories and miss the essence of the LBS.
It is a no contest at all. The OW is bound to lose...badly.
This is why I let my W take whatever she wanted from the house when she moved out. Whatever she has good memories of, I want her to have. I was a little peeved that she took a couple special things I got for the girls in the last couple months, but after reflection, Im happy that she thought enough of the things to take them.
Plant seeds. Slowly add water. Wait. Patience is king.
