What do I do?

[mvgfwd2]

I'm a bit confused. I reread your first post where you said she would pay the fee for working out? Are you finances already separate? She has hers, you and yours? My opinion is that when married it's all family money. You seem to have been living separately even before all this. I don't think that is a healthy practice for a committed marriage. But that's just my opinion. My view is working together in a marriage is a full time team effort in all aspects.