Need to stop pushing

[NDY]

I know you asked for Wonka, but I wouldn't mention anything about the two of you or your differences.

Can I ask why? Just curious because things are really bleak at the moment and I'll like even for one day to not be fighing.

Just be brief (1-2 sentences) and say just what you said - that you are thinking of her and her family on this day and that you miss her dad.

Yes, that was my thinking. Short but full of sentiment.

I would not ask her to do anything there on your behalf.

Ok, but may I ask why? I'm pretty sure she will reflect on this sitch when she's there. I don't want her to think I'm unfeeling.

What did the letter from the L say?

The usual. Marriage is broken down irretrievably with no prospect of R, She and S9 are residing elsewhere etc then a proposed deal to buy me out. Not much different from where we were in April. I was expecting the letter but it's still a punch in the gut. Certain things just get to me like how She is dictating the terms of access (she can't do that and her L knows this), how she gets to say where S9 lives (my L is going to contest this). The access she proposes means I get S9 2 nights a week then every second weekend.