I am glad you are looking hard st your situation with wife. It is kind of important for us to understand where we stand and where our wives are at. But the more we focus on that, the less attention we are placing on us. I'm not talking about sticking your head in the sand either.
We just cannot lose sight though that this is really not just about wife...it is about YOU. We are setting ourselves on the path to saving ourselves First then we can work on marriage.
It is clear there is something going on with your and my wives...may not be an affair yet, who know. Intel is good for later. But you need to keep working in your side of this.
Let's just say that you do discover there us a relationship going on. If she were yo end that today are you the best Roiste you can be or will she see the she the same man that she has been trying to get away from? This is why you are lucky. She is still here and you have time to really make yourself a better man.
You can be a lighthouse (and I am so glad that you are) the growth needs to be in place for that to matter... Else our wives will just find a dimmer light somewhere else. The improvement needs to be underway.
I have seen the switch Is turning on for you so I don't want to beat the dead horse...so Have you been working on your goals for self improvement, have you been looking for 180's to change the dynamic at home, have you been getting out?
