I agree, Wonka... now that you mention it, our (my, really... but she is their stepmom) boys are moving into a new apartment tomorrow and Friday. I am going to manage the whole process from start to finish... she can help physically move stuff, but I'm taking charge. I know this will impress her. And as soon as they are moved in? I am headed out of town for four days to visit my mom. She doesn't know this yet, I will tell her at the last minute. And... I know this will confound her.

I don't plan to tell her when I am going to return, mostly because I don't want her inviting the OW over here. I know I can't control that completely, but I REALLY don't want that woman in my home ever again. Did I ever mention how she invited herself over the night we returned from a six day trip up and down the east coast a few weeks before the BD, wherein I cooked dinner for her and my W and the kids I hadn't seen in a week? I did it as the supportive spouse who was helping her wife "woo" a new client. In retrospect, I see how this woman had everything planned out way ahead of me, how she took advantage of my W's MLC and my inherent trust in our marriage...

Anyway, thanks again Wonka for the counsel. I will let you know how it goes!

Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19