I would add that you need to mix your DB techniques with taking on some "leadership" role in some areas. You remember how you took the 'lead' at one meeting and your W looked at you with a mixture of respect and awe.
That is what you would like to do more of here and there. You don't want to go to the one extreme and rub W the wrong way. Soft and strong. Slide back and forth on that scale.
Soft as in asking her for her opinions and being receptive to physical touches. Strong as in taking the lead on some areas.
