What do I do?

[mvgfwd2]

You can do a lot before leaving. Boundaries are not ultimatums. They are just things you can't allow in your life and your home. She can decide whether she wants to respect them or not. From what you said she doesn't respect them. So what can you do to gain some respect? Someone set the house alarm so it would go off when the WAW came home late. That ended that. You can cut off the internet service if that is how they are communicating. She can get her own. Same for the phone. You don't have to facilitate the A. Some have told the WAS to leave the bedroom. Etc. And why are you leaving? She is the one who should leave in my mind if it comes to that.