Ok folks. This is turning into an amazing discussion. First, on S9 and therapy. Yes, I have always pushed for this. We do have play therapy here in the UK and that is what we had lined up for him. But I need to look into it as an individual because she still gets a say on his welfare. The system set up is that the parents are in mediation while the child gets the play therapy. You need to attend TOGRTHER three times (we did) for him to be eligible and for the mediators to allow this to happen (they did). I need to go back and speak to them regarding how the situation is now. Either that or go behind her back and now that we are at L stage I'll need to consult my L first.
Of course, W should be involved in the decision on therapy for your S, and I wasn't aware of the potential bureaucratic pitfalls in your system. Here in the states many people don't get any help paying for it, so you avoid the bureaucratic hurdles by just deciding and footing the bill. Crazy either way, but I'll take hurdles to people unable to pay for necessary services.
I can't imagine your W will object if she was agreeable to it earlier, and there has to be some way to get your S therapy, even if it is outside the M negotiations. He is after all, suffering anxiety and likely depression, and any good therapist will know how to classify it to qualify as that. Don't know the ins & outs of your health insurance system, but if you don't get satisfaction from the mediators or your L, forget that it has anything to do w/ your M and just seek treatment for those issues under your health insurance if you can.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
