Kem, you've read my thread. What a discussion. Right?
So I recon the meassage here is there is a time to make a point and a time to pursue. Now is the time to make a point. And that point is to yourself. The whole 'acting as if' thing to me has a deep meaning. While the wife is wayward there isn't much you can do. You can either be consumed by it or better yourself. You know I struggle. You and I contribute on each other's threads but there is one thing that resonates around here is the W needs to respect the H. Just read Sandi's threads over and over again.
I believe there may be a time in the future when the pursuit can happen. You will always be an option to your W but our objective here is to become plan A, not plan B. Stick on the path.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.